Let them fly!

Your child's dream has always to be baker, while you continue to see rather lengthy studies.

Your daughter is considering a career in art. It wants to burn the planks and live his passion.

Your son is planning to move to the United States to work.

All these situations make you afraid, you're anxious and you regularly come into conflict with your child. You can not stand the idea of seeing your child do something that you had not considered. You can not stand that your child may one day away from you, leaving you to live his life elsewhere, away from you.

While these are legitimate reactions - provided they are only temporary and very limited in time. Otherwise, know that you will make your child unhappy, especially since it will have only one choice away from you, definitely!

Indeed, the lives of your children do not belong to you. You must, of course, educate, raise the sense of the term, ie grow. You must show the right path, guide them.

You must at the same time, they set limits, preventing them from doing anything. But this does not impose your choice. Indeed, it is possible that your child does not want follow-educated and he prefers an apprenticeship where he will blossom fully. He may also want to live his passion, music or theater. He may dream of going to work in the United States, away from you.

Why stop? If he really wants, if carefully considered, instead of the curb, why not accompany him in his approach. The key is that you discuss before, you show him the various drawbacks of what he chose to do - but also the benefits. Let the professionals meet. Let him take music lessons or drama. Follow him, accompany him. Once this is done, if he persists in his choice, he is bitten and does not want to do something else. Do not feel guilty constantly saying, "you'll miss everything," if you want to go, because you do not love me, "the artistic community is difficult, do not you ever go out" "Without the tray, you're nothing," if you do not study long, you'll be a good for nothing ", etc.. Encourage them instead! Watch him from afar. Support in the difficult times. Tell him you'll always be there for him and that even if he went to live abroad, you do not want him and you'll always be by his side.

Of course, your child will make mistakes because the way he has chosen is certainly fraught with pitfalls. Especially when it happens, do not tell him: "I told you so! "" The children never listen to their parents. " Help him, instead, to recover. Tell him we learned much from his failures, that if he truly wants something, he must persevere, it will eventually get there. Let him live simply, while supporting it.

This should be the goal of parents to their children to be happy in life they will choose. What better indeed to live his passion to practice that we want? Would not you like to do the same thing to him?

Do not formalize above. If they do not want to follow the path you have them all mapped out from birth, do not think they do not like you do not want them. Instead, you can be happy. This will mean that you have fulfilled your role as parent is to give your child the opportunity to take off toward life, toward his own life!